Thursday, March 20, 2008

Game theory at inter-personal relationships

I have been ignited by the idea of Game Theorists working out concrete predictable models on everything from Trade Negotiations to bargaining with taxi drivers.

I also have a book on Game theory at work. ( How to use Game Theory to outthink and outmanuever your competition , James Miller)

But what these theorists and models and books overlook is that no-matter how many effective variables they consider, there is always the unknown dynamic variables that come into play at the last moment. ( Who/what will take care of/account for these ?? ) ( especially when, all you see in this world is a series of interlinked zero-sum games where the variables are too numerous and dynamic that we cannot script the outcome - even if we wanted to. ( even inter personal relationships like friendship , love and parental care are not excused out of this general model )

After thought
A) Is it that the reason why we dont want to know the outcome is because we cannot do it - and not because we dont want to !!
B) Sometimes the same rules in interpersonal relationships work fine ( if not better ) at/in business/networking ..

( Read this tip from Business Week on business networking :
DON'T be an apple-polisher
Everybody likes a compliment, sure, but nobody likes a lap dog—especially not your fellow MBAs. And recruiters can always sniff out blatant bootlicking. Even if you think you're being smooth, being insincere will still come across extremely quickly )

See !! A simple extension in your rules of interpersonal engagements !

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Just the kind of person Bond hates

"Bond always distrusted short men. They grew up from childhood with an inferiority complex. All their lives they would strive to be big - bigger than the others who had teased them as a child. Napoleon had been short, and Hitler. It was the short men that had caused all the trouble in the world."

- James Bond , Goldfinger (1959 )

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

How not to propose

What do you feel when things which are supposed to go right go totally the wrong way ??
I really do empathise with people befallen into such weird and embarrassing situations .
Situations are Us !

Sunday, March 09, 2008

Angels and the Pious

To farishte poochhenge mehshar mein paakbaazon se
Gunah kyoon na kare, kya khuda rahim na tha?

- Aziz Mian

Trust me, the angels will ask the pious on judgement day -
"Why didn’t you sin? Didn’t you trust in God’s mercy?"

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

These days ..

What Iam happy about : Hmmmm the future !

What Iam looking forward : Where I will be next year this time . ( Havent I been thinking / asking / questioning / pondering the same year after year after year after ..... ) AAh anyways .. this is yet another year .

What Iam pissed off about right now : My so called broadband connection .. ( P.S : I can browse porn faster on my mobile ... than on a wired broadband connection from Reliance ) ... Yes ... Now you know what sucks and what ought to suck. ( Say no to drugs and Reliance Wi-Max )

What Iam concerned about : Iam not growing younger. .. worse still .. my age is not even staying still.!!
But atleast (relatively speaking) .. I age slower than the people around me. ( Some one who was 'younger' to me by 4 years recently told me that she felt 'old' because of me ...
Heres the logic she used : I am older than her > But she is more mature than me > I ought to be more mature than my age > But since she feels more mature than me , she feels older than me.
Q.E.D .
Here are the assumption that went wrong in reaching the conclusion :
a) Maturity is directly proportional to age.
b) Males mature at the same rate as females ( atleast in the homo sapiens species )
Facts :
a) Maturity / Wisdom doesnt always come along free with age.
b) Males of homo sapiens species never mature. ( or atleast want to ) They just die young. Try giving them a case of beer.
c) Maturity is a direct function of the ability to handle responsibility.

What Iam really worried about : Getting married to the wrong person ( Hmmm wait ... someone told me ... "Did you ever get to choose your dad / mom / brother ? .. Same with the case with your wife " ... )

Hmmm well ... yeah you maybe right .. I can finally grow in her ! ( or the other way ) ...

For that matter ... I didnt get to choose my boss /first job . This is my third company. I dont want to pay 50% of my assets to some 'wrong person' whom I married cos I couldnt afford a 7-in-one ( washing machine/ dish washer / cooker / vaccuum cleaner / micro wave/ baby-sitter/ iron box )

"Florentino is so in love with Fermina that he eats gardenias and drinks cologne so that he can know her taste. He becomes drunk on the cologne, and his mother finds him the next morning, in a puddle of his vomit, in a cove of the bay where drowning victims are known to wash ashore" - Love in the time of Cholera